I’ll try and cut a long story short. When I was young we lived in several countries as my parents were working and earning quite good money; private school; horse-riding, big house etc. A relative persuaded me to come to the UK and pay for Uni there. soon after I arrived my parents finances crashed and that relative paid most of the fees. I graduated in 2003 with very good grades and work experience but found it IMPOSSIBLE to find a job (I think mainly because of race/being ‘foreign’).
Anyway I sunk into a depression, I got into a relationship with a very unsuitable person, got pregnant and spent most of the pregnancy on bed rest and could not work. the pregnancy was a huge drama in the family - every extended relation gave their two cents and it was very stressful - lots of lectures (I was 23 when baby was born). The guy ended up violent, abusive and got me into a lot of debt (e.g. not paying our rent so I would have to use my credit card when not working then not paying it ba
He was very violent and abusive and eventually I left when the baby was about 1 but I tried getting back together about 2 or 3 times ‘for the sake of the baby’ but it was a living nightmare and I eventually left for good.
My dad got a mid life crisis, kicked my mum out of the house, moved in a 21 year old, had a baby together… My mum is so religious and will never divorce so she is living in a tiny poky house and I am sharing with her.
When I was pregnant I was on bedrest and could not work, I sunk into a depression and even when the baby was born I was in such a depression I looked like a scarecrow, my clothes did not fit, I had no money for make up, hair-cuts etc.
Even though I have a good postgraduate degree I am just working at a call centre because I cant explain on my C.V. what I have been doing for the past 5 years.
People I went to school with have good jobs, mortgages, are getting engaged etc and my life is just a mess. There are many I know who are happy to see
us go from a ‘posh’ family to a Jerry springer one. I am so ashamed of the situation and I don’t know what I can do to make things better.