Finances Zone

I’ve been dating this guy for 3 years, with the last 2 years in a long distance relationship. When I ask him about our furture together he always says that he’s not ready financially and asked me to wait. He said he want to feel able to support a family before deciding to get married. When I asked him when he’ll be ready, he says he still doesn’t know may be 4-5 years later. What I just don’t get it is that he actually has enough money to get married and enough salary to support a family. But, he thinks that’s not enough, he seems to aims for far more than that. I’ve been to his parent’s house and met his parents several times since before we’re dating, and he’s never shown his affection twrd me infront of them. Moreover, his grand told him to find a house for himself and will buy it for him but he doesn’t do as he’s told. He only calls me every night and rarely visits me or giving me anything as a token of his affection. Is he seriuos abt marrying me? What should I do?
Btw, I’ve asked him to pay more attention to our realationship and I’ve told him that I’m not happy with his ways. But he keeps persistent with his excuses that he wants to concentrate on his career and he doen’t do anything to make it easy for me. I have to say I feel lonely, he knows that and he says he calls me every night and it should be enough..

Here’s what I hate about them: my mother went through many personal issues when I was a child (death of her mother, divorcing my father, financial problems) and let it affect her parenting of me by ignoring me or taking out her frustration on me. My father is constantly annoying me just because he’s bored, is retired and can’t go anywhere. My brother is an arrogant jerk who treats me like he’s a class above me, even though we were raised in the same household. Finally, my sister (who I was once very close to) hardly has a conversation with me anymore, or has a pretentious attitude about herself. Collectively (at least 2 or more of them), they treat me like I’m stupid because I’m the youngest and don’t know as much as them, make me feel like crap because I have an overeating problem (as do most of them), am trying to get my finances together and they smugly point out what I’m doing wrong, and anytime I have a moment to myself, they bother me about something they need. Is that bad?
Just so everyone knows, I AM on a diet thank you very much, and I realize there are worse families out there, but I still feel they were wrong in the way they’ve treated me. Also, I have many very good friends who are there for me, so my family is far from all I have.

My dad drinks to major excess. Every night, he comes home from work with two or three large cans of Fosters beer. On the weekends, he can put away 20-40 bottles. My mom has showed him how it hinders the finances, and how it hurts him and those around him. He stops for maybe a week, then picks it right back up again. I don’t know what to do, but my family is falling apart.

The child is only 6 and the father wants 50% custody, however he is alienating her from myself and family, now my child thiks she wants to live with him because he has shared the circumstances with her. I dont have the finances for an attorney but I need a lot of advice. please help !

I met a woman on a dating site. We hit it off on our first date. We went out 2 times. She came
over a third time. We had a good time and became closer. I showed her photo albums of me
and my family, etc. We then watched a romantic movie together. We stayed in I cooked for her
and we had some wine. Afterwards we made love. Then we woke up the next morning and I
made her breakfast. We stayed in bed and made love all morning. She was supposed to leave
at 8am. Then 8am became 9am..then 9am became 11am. I told her she needed to get going
cause she had work to do and I needed to get busy with my day. I was starting to feel restless
and smothered. All she wanted to do was kiss, kiss, and kiss. Then for some reason she started
calling me names like I was a nerd, I was a geek, but also cute, etc. Then she would take her
fingernails across my back and she knows I hate that….She was teasing me and I was getting
annoyed. She had complained the whole time she was at my condo. I made her avocado dip
and she said she didnt like avacados but liked my dip. I made her breakfast but didnt like
peaches….then she complained it was too hot in my condo. I even layed out a new towel, soap,
and washcloth for her to shower. I was going nuts to be a good host….
.Then it became 1pm. I was feeling smothered. Then she asked if I was going to miss her when
she went on her trip to Europe next week for 3 weeks? I said “yes i would be sad when she left
and started laughing a little. Then she called me a jerk and a*sshole and told me not to touch
her. I thought she was teasing but wasnt. We gathered up her things and I walked her to the
front door and everything seemed fine. She asked when she was going to see me again? I said
after she got back from her trip. Then i went to hug her goodbye and she was very aloof. Then I
walked her to her car and clearly she was upset with me. She told me I was supposed to see
her one more time before she went on her trip to Eurpope next week!….she said I was
supposed drive to her house this time(she lives 32 miles away–gas prices are high) since she
came over to my house twice. I said “ok no problem.” She said no…and got mad and said it
wasnt coming from my heart. She said i was giving her mixed signals…I said “we are going to
fast.” I am unemployed due to lay offs at my job and my finances are running low. I said money
comes first and you come second right now. Otherwise I will go broke. She got mad and said
then why did you contact me if you knew i lived so far away?…i was speechless. I said “why
are we fighting?” I said “Are you falling in love with me?” She didnt answer me. I said dating is
expensive and I need to find a job. She said we didnt spend a dime this week so why are you
complaining? Then she had complained it was too hot in my condo the whole morning. Then she
said she had two tickets to the ballgame this week. I said “ok good lets go.” . She said no forget
it!. Then she says nevermind, threw her car in reverse and left in a pouty fuss. i coudnt believe it.
Why is she acting so crazy? We have only known each other a week. I never twisted her arm to
come over and I even cooked for her. I dont need this grief. I give up on women. So what gives
with her?

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